Stay single until you meet someone who makes you not want to be single. Until you meet someone who makes you not want to go on more first dates, or have new first kisses; someone who makes you feel excited about the possibility of having all of your last firsts.
Stay single until you meet someone who makes you not want to be single. Someone who is worth giving up all those crazy nights meeting random people in bars, and flirting with a cute stranger by the pool on holiday, and doing life on your own. Someone who grounds and calms you, in a way you’ve never felt before. And it’s not dull like you may have expected it to be; it’s a breath of fresh air, and it’s actually quite thrilling, because this is the start of a whole new adventure.
Stay single until you meet someone who stimulates your mind, and makes your heart flutter, and your sides ache from laughter. Someone who makes you feel comfortable spilling your life story and your wildest dreams and your juiciest secrets, because it feels like you’ve known them for lifetimes. Someone who you can talk to for hours, and it feels like it’s been ten minutes.
Stay single until it feels right. Not until your mind says yes, but until that voice deep in your womb says this feels right. Stay single until you’re sure you want the possibility of forever, and you’re not just rushing or pushing out of fear of running out of time, or ending up alone. Because you have time. There is no rush. There is no need to force anything.
Stay single until you’re happy on your own, but then you meet someone who brightens everything in your world. Someone you don’t need, but someone you truly want. Someone who doesn’t need you, but wants you, too. And every day, that want grows. Love grows. Appreciation grows. Trust grows. Intimacy grows. Always growing, and choosing to do it together.
Stay single even when you don’t want to be single; especially then. Because this is an invite to meet and learn to love yourself. To re-discover your confidence and your self-worth, no matter how many years ago it vanished. This is an invite to return to wholeness, to recognise that you are complete on your own, that you were not born with a void. Your singleness is not something to run away from or discard as soon as you get the chance. Your singleness is freedom, it is power, and it is divine. If you don’t recognise and appreciate that now, you will miss it dearly and long for it once it is gone.
Maybe you’ve spent your life so far searching for someone to save you from your single status. But you’ve got this backwards, twisted, upside down. Someone should fight for the chance to have you walk away from your aloneness. And that someone has to show you that even though you don’t need them, and even though life is already more beautiful than you knew it could be, here’s why you should choose them. Here’s why you should choose to do life with them. And only when you feel a full body yes, should you say yes. Only then should you let go of single.
Stay single until you meet someone who makes you not want to be single. But until that day, enjoy it. Embrace it. Love it. Figure out who you are and what you want and what you’re here to experience. Because the end goal of life is not marriage, and kids, and grand-kids. The end goal is fulfilment, and joy, and growth. And maybe marriage and kids will bring you some of that, and maybe not. Who knows. But it will never be enough on its own. So use this time to think about what you want, what fills you up, and what you need to get to the end of your life and know in your heart you lived it fully.